Frontin’
Struggle
There are things in life that you can compromise on, I never really agreed with that before, but it is true, or else you would be living in a lonely world. The critical thing is that those things cannot be things that you love. If it’s a place to eat, what movie you see, where you’re going for vacation, those are the types of things for me that can be compromised because none are things that I love.
How do you know what not to compromise on? Stay true to yourself. What does it mean to be “true to yourself?” It means to only make decisions using what you feel is right for you in your gut. (see Three ways to make decisions) There are three things that every person must strive for in order to be true to yourself: to know who you are. To know what you love. To know what you want in life. In order to have focus , to be able to hone your life into only the things that you love, these three things must be your goals. Some people never understand any of these things about themselves, and they compromise by saying that they will stop looking. Once you compromise on this most important quest, you will compromise on everything.
That is 90% of this world, by the way, people who compromise one of the three: live for your partner without respect for yourself, get a job solely for money, set goals that are not really what they want, but what others tell them they want. There is room for compromise, yes, but not in the three things that define a person’s life.
“Know thyself.” It starts with knowing who you are. This quote is an ancient saying, if you look it up, you will find no author, or really you will find thousands of authors, from Socrates to Plato to Jung. It is the first most important quest. From knowing yourself you will know what you love and then what you want. It cannot be in any other order.
Without these three things, you cannot react truthfully to any situation. You will be looking around the room to see how everyone else reacts, how everyone else votes, how everyone else likes their chicken. Think about it, how can you have truthful opinions or emotions about little things if you are not truthful about the big things? You cannot. You have no frame of reference, because you don’t know the nitty gritty about yourself.
There is nothing “wrong” with being in the 90% if that is what you have chosen, and have no discord about it. It is certainly easier to “go with the flow” and follow the rules set forth by others. Realize this though, the energy will still be within you, to be true to yourself, and if you deny it, it will come out, although not by your choice. You cannot deny the energy within you. (See Life’s Laws of Motion)
Realize the beautiful part as well, when you know who you are, what you love, and what your goals are you have an internal compass to guide you at all times and will feel the authentic twang in your gut that tells you to right the ship to your truth.
Don't compromise yourself. You're all you've got. -- Betty Ford
Has anyone ever done something to you that left you feeling ashamed yet they are one who did wrong?
Are you more inclined to forgive ‘BIG’ things or ‘small’ things?
Are there stuff that are unforgivable?
YOUNG, SECURE AND DEPRESSED
Phase 1, defined by feeling "locked in" to a job or relationship, or both. "It's an illusory sense of being trapped," said Robinson. "You can leave but you feel you can't."
Phase 2 is typified by a growing sense that change is possible. "This mental and physical separation from previous commitments leads to all sorts of emotional upheavals. It allows exploration of new possibilities with a closer link to interests, preferences and sense of self.
"Up until then you may be driving fast down a road you don't want to be going down. A minority of participants described getting caught in a loop, but the majority reflected on a difficult time which was a catalyst for important positive change."
Phase 3 is a period of rebuilding a new life.
Phase 4 is the cementing of fresh commitments that reflect the young person's new interests, aspirations and values.
I'm in love with potential
by Jessica Care Moore
I keep falling in love
with potential But it never seems to work out
He was full of a lot of it
And he was TALL
But potential had a way of becoming diluted with insecurities
And just cause you can see the beauty of someone
Doesn't mean they can see if for themselves
Still I believed potential would eventually love me
As much I loved him
Then begin to love himself
The way I loved myself
But there was someone else
There always is
Potential had an influential way
Of showing me what my potential was
And he celebrated all I could do without him
Potential reminded me of how he loved my commitment
To doing whatever I had to do to exercise my own potential
Even if that meant potentially leaving him behind
Still I unconditionally loved potential
And held on to the potential future we could have
If only he would see our potential
Without being intimidated by my own potential
If he would just stop loving me with conditions
Especially when I loved him
Simply for the possibility of how great
He could become and already was
But didn't know it
Cause he was caught up in my potential,
Instead of seeing my life
As a reflection of what he already had or
What we could potentially have together
And that meant loving you when you hadn't yet
Reached your full potential
But helping you get there as quickly as possible
Isn't it just a bit too easy to fall in love
With someone after the glory and
Not along the slow, goal setting, potential way?
And if I didn't love your possibilities
Then I didn't love you
And if you didn't realize our possibilities
Because you were too wound up in my potential
Then you didn't really love me
I guess sometimes we give potential too much credit
And borrow interest from our own accounts
Without taking ourselves into account
How many times did I blow off your behavior
Relying on potential?
I can no longer count
Or wait around for you
To let me stand naked in front of you
So you can see yourself as worthy of my love
You loving me for me and not through me
Can really be potentially dangerous!
Today is a birthday that I celebrate as I can honestly say I am over him and it's really awesome. The poem above was like a recurring conversation we kept having. DG your other name should have been potential. I will not personally wish you happy birthday but hope you had one but if you didn't it none of my business. As my girl told me on twitter this morning, the past has stayed where it should
When I started dating again, there were a few questions I would ask women. What is good about you and what is bad about you? That simple question told me a lot about the woman and her ability to be totally honest with herself.
I learned that people tell you who they are, and it's up to you to listen and not let your lust cloud your ability to make good decisions
I encourage you to let someone's actions replace his or her words. It's always good to hear that you're loved, but it's better to be shown that you're loved
YOU ARE FLY, ROSE FLOWER BEAUTIFUL, STEVIE WONDERFUL. YOU ARE THE ONE.
Days like these are like a gem when I regard who I am and I am grateful to my creator for the cloud opens, the sun shines through like a grin and I love who I am, where I am and whose I am.
Thank you Lord. Your works are wonderful I KNOW THAT FULL WELL.
I may name one of my kids Zosi. I think it’s a beautiful name. hihihihi