When I started dating again, there were a few questions I would ask women. What is good about you and what is bad about you? That simple question told me a lot about the woman and her ability to be totally honest with herself. 

I learned that people tell you who they are, and it's up to you to listen and not let your lust cloud your ability to make good decisions

I encourage you to let someone's actions replace his or her words. It's always good to hear that you're loved, but it's better to be shown that you're loved