Over the weekend a friend asked me not o give up on her.....i hadnt gotten to the point of giving up on her but it broke my heart that she was at a point in her life she felt so much had gone wrong..that people would give up on her....usually with my pals i think i give them leeway that idont necessarily give other people.....yet i also realised that at some point some people take advantage of that..and so i developed a way of just cutting such people out in a clear way that i dont give them any thought...and this month i also said..i won mince words with anyone...even if they are friends..if i feel its crap i am being told or given i will say it as it is..i think i shocked one of my friends bu it was necessary...in alabastron we are told that if u have any expectations you communicate them...having uncommunicated expectation and then feeling disappointed or hurt when they are no met is stupid and a form of self sabotage....but with this friend i had not reached a point where the thought of even giving up on them..it had not even crossed my min..i can be very tenacious...but it made me sad nonetheless..for a moment i panicked..wat d i do...this person has sent out a cry for help..and we all do it in our own unique ways..others drink like mad..others withdraw..others lash out..all the while wondering why no one is answering they plea ...nway i said one of those quick prayers of God you are mighty to save..an i reached out....i havent done that in a long time...we are all so busy and so consumed with sorting our own lives..and i think rightly so...bu i am glad i did cz it uplifted my friend and it edified me.....